The Missing Secret The Motivational and Law Of Attraction Movement Leaves Out
The hidden piece no coach has explained.
When I was growing up, my mother was far ahead of the times. When most kids were still eating white bread, sugar, and were being taken to doctors when they had the flu, my mother only allowed us whole unprocessed foods, absolutely no sugar, and when we were sick we were given more wheat grass juice.
Seriously, when you grow up hearing the squeak of a wheatgrass juicer and know that you’re about to drink what tastes like a mowed lawn, it’s a different kind of childhood.
Though I was raised in the Catholic church, I was also brought to the Maharishi Ayurveda center to learn Transcendental Meditation. By age ten I’d learned Silva Mind Control and what is now called The Law of Attraction. At fourteen I’d fire-walked, and had been in Native American sweat lodges. I met Tony Robbins and Deepak Chopra when I was ten, when all they had were booths at a health expo, and no one knew their names.
Before it was ever popular, or the yoga pant had been invented, I was raised going to health retreats and my mom practiced yoga in our living room. By the time I was sixteen I was leading workshops on meditation, the power of the mind, overcoming fear, and releasing past traumas to people sometimes three times my age.
While my friends were going to college, I traveled the country speaking on mindset, meditation, and utilizing your mind to achieve great results. I sat next to some of the great thought leaders of today, having met Marianne Williamson, Shakti Gawain, Deepak Chopra, and so forth, before they became mainstream bestselling authors.
During this time, I saw something missing in the knowledge and ideas of motivation and spirituality, but I didn’t feel experienced enough to know what it was. Something just didn’t sit right with me.
At each conference, I’d see the same people returning, seeking more. They wanted that new course that would bring them to the next level. They were told if they became grateful enough, well then they would succeed at everything they wanted in life. Each teacher/guru always had the next plan, the next product, and the next level to reach. Of course they always had a new price tag.
By my early twenties I walked away from teaching. I wanted to help people, but as a whole, it felt like what was being taught only trapped people in an endless cycle of seeking.
It wasn’t until a decade later, on my own personal journey, where I followed a list of 101 dreams I wanted to make come true, that I found a deeper understanding of what was missing in all the motivation and spirituality.
When I finished my journey, I returned to the world of speaking and teaching planning to share the wisdom. What I found was a sea of personal coaches, speakers, people who had suddenly become Reiki masters online, and NLP Practitioners. There were more certified life coaches than ever before, and everyone was talking about living an authentic life, while repeating the same exact knowledge packaged in a different way.
In all the belief systems, and motivation programs I still saw the same big missing link. An issue that no one recognized. I’ve watched it for years, and I shook my head wondering why the obvious remained unseen.
The motivational world, think Anthony Robbins or the diet industry, is all about material and mindset. If you find determination, focus, and train the mind to be disciplined, then you will have unseen success in the goal you want to achieve.
There’s nothing wrong with this ideas. This approach works for very type A personalities. The rest of society, tends to take these courses, get hyped up for a few weeks, and then fall by the wayside, until they get upset with their lives, buy a new program or go to a new workshop, and boom find the motivational spark again.
It’s an external approach to life. One of attack. It needs tremendous focus, fighting with your mind and primal wants, and determination.
On the flip side, you have the spiritual world. This is where you let go of all struggle, realize that you are God/ Source, visualize what it is that you desire, and watch it manifest. If what you want doesn’t come to you, it’s because you’re blocked energetically. You need to first raise your vibration, and then you will find the way that life will happen as if it were magic.
Once again, this does have merit. I’ve recognized it in my own life, that when I want something, but don’t have deep attachment to it, suddenly it appears as if by miracle.
The problem with the Law of Attraction coaching and work, is that it constantly puts the person into a state of, I need to raise my vibration utilizing my mind, and it becomes a head trip. One where once again, the person seeks out coaches, seminars, retreats, and a huge industry of books and online courses that people buy in order to break through their emotional blocks, the pain of childhood, and become a more spiritual person.
Failure means you weren’t enough: not grateful enough, not loving enough, not open enough, not high enough vibration.
But don’t worry, there’s a course or a conference for that.
The missing link — the one I realized by achieving and living out my biggest dreams — is the third level, the secret no one discusses, and the most important one — the sensual experience.
You see, we are human beings having a living experience in bodies. We are not meant to be mental brains walking around, unconscious to everything we are doing, so stuck in our minds that we can’t see what’s in front of us besides a set of rules.
The spiritual and motivational practices are head trips first, with the hope that it will affect the physical world around the person.
Experiences, the ones that overload our senses, where we are so in the present moment because we are filled with joy, or we are in a state of overwhelm because something hard has happened to us, are the actual game changers.
Ask anyone who has PTSD if it was a mindset twist that caused it, or an actual experience, and they will tell you that it was an experience. PTSD happens because an incident happens on the physical plane and the sensory level, and it was so overwhelming that it changed the brain pattern.
The same is true when someone goes out and experiences something powerful and good in their lives.
When I went after my entire Bucket List, and experienced one incredible dream to the next, it changed me on a deep level. My confidence soared. I no longer asked permission to have a good life. I became unafraid of the world, and I could go after anything I desired. I let life show me its majesty.
The difference between the mindset programs, diets, spiritual courses, subliminal messaging, hypnosis, and counseling and that of experiences, is that one is a constant fight with your own mind and life, and the other is an opening to how awesome life is supposed to be.
In a billion dollar industry of self-help and motivation, the most important key is missing. It’s in experiencing our deepest desires, and the process of going after that journey that we become the person we were born to be.
Rules and coaching programs that don’t come from experiential teaching are never going to make a huge difference in someone’s life. It’s only in the experiences, the feeling of what life is all about, that all three levels align.
I call the three levels of alignment the SMS (Sensory, Material, and Spiritual) of Success.
When you experience your dreams and desires, or the greatness of this life in a sensory way, it transcends to the material enjoyment of this earth, and then from there a deeper spirituality emerges.
Where once a person needed to diet and exercise all the time to keep weight off, now they only think about how to be healthy to experience all they want out of life. The person who works non-stop to reach a wealth level or to make it through, begins to align their time and finances with the things that matter most.
Head trips, and spiritual practices, will always be a battle first, with a bit of success, that flows to another defeat, which leads into another course, and then bam you’re back where you started.
Add experiences, and the journey to achieve your dreams to the mix and all three levels, spiritual, physical, and sensual align, and then there’s forward movement without struggle.